Jealousy/The Green Eyed Monster

Jealousy is one of the strongest, most primal of all the human emotions….I have personally seen women scream, right out in public, “I’m going to rip those earrings out of your ears, you bitch, for trying to steal my man,” and then proceed to jump on the other woman and proceed to attack them in just that way…

I have also personally seen men curse other men and yell “I’m going to kick your ass mother f****r, I’m going to kill you for messing with my woman you low life sob” and then bum rush them and start a fistfight, again in public….The emotion of jealousy is so strong, so all consuming, such an adrenaline fueled primitive response that it knows no boundaries of space, place, or time….



I am not immune to these feelings myself, none of us are and I know, I can testify from personal experience that at the time, in the heat of the moment, you feel an all consuming, almost passionate hatred for the person that you are directing the attack upon, for daring to invade your personal boundaries, for taking away or trying to take away the object of your affections…

There is no more all pervasive, all consuming human emotion than jealousy, and no human being is immune to the ravages and conflicting feels of hurt, loss and betrayal than the “green eyed monster,” as jealousy is often referred to, causes us to feel…

Jealousy is also defined in clinical terminology according to Google sources like this: “Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust.”

These same sources say that, interestingly enough, while both men and women always fly into a jealous rage when it is triggered by proven sexual infidelity, by “cheating” on them, women as a group are also NINE TIMES more likely to be affected by emotional jealousy than men!

Women are inflamed and overwhelmed with feelings of emotional insecurity by their mates displaying even the most seemingly innocent interest in other women, be it a casual friendship, a comment about a former girl friend, or even by their man’s just looking at another woman, a complete stranger, say at a shopping mall or driving down the street”…



Men, on the other hand, are statistically more tolerant of their wives or girlfriends expressing varying degrees of emotional attachment to other males, be it as casual friends with interests in common that they do not share, like men that are into say bird watching or planting a garden, or casual companions who visit frequently, or even male friends that give their wives or girlfriends rides to the store or go shopping with them….

What really triggers a man’s sense of jealous rage is any sign or actual proof of sexual infidelity by their mates…. If they suspect or discover that their male friends, mutual or otherwise, are actually sexually cheating with their wives girl friends, or significant others, gay or straight, they almost always fly into an all consuming rage, with death threats or great bodily harm to the offending male always expressed in no uncertain terms, and often acted upon on the spot, right here and right now….

These are primitive, deeply seated emotions that are tightly wound into the human psyche, and men in general are more likely to act out their jealous rages in the throes of a jealous fit, by either punching out the other man or all to often in our already violent society by trying to kill them, with whatever is most handy, be it their fists, a baseball bat, a knife or a gun….

This is where the term “Saturday Night Special,” referring to cheap, easily available handguns, came into existence as slang vocabulary…. Because if a man spends his Saturday night drinking in a bar, perhaps losing in a card game or gambling and then comes home to find his wife or girl friend in the arms of another man, he is more likely to shoot the other man right on the spot, sometimes the woman too….Again though, men and women usually express their hurt and anger in different ways….

Ike Turner was notoriously jealous of his wife Tina Turner, and cover songs like “Hey Joe” by Jimi Hendrix personify the typical male response to infidelity by their women: “I gave him the gun,” while women artists like Carly Simon bitterly express their hurt and emotional pain in songs like “Your So Vain” or Alanis Morisette in “You Oughta Know” as a response to their male partners infidelity in vivid, visceral lyrical imagery that cuts like a metaphorical knife….



While women are certainly not immune from acting out and physically attacking the “other woman,” and often do just that, they rarely result in actually killing them….I am not sure how this manifests itself in lesbian relationships, but this type of blind rage and deadly response by the man is statistically and factually much more pervasive, much more common and caused by an all consuming physical rage…

It is usually an instant, impulsive, and oftentimes deadly physical retaliation that is statistically a much more prevalent response by the man, who literally “sees red” and is blinded and overwhelmed by the emotional intensity of the moment….It seems to be an innate, hormonal response….

This is not purport to be a scientific study, just a series of fact based personal observations…But both personal experience and cultural evidence is overwhelming….It is obvious that the “green eyed monster” is one of the most powerful and primitive emotions shared by all human beings, and that none of us are ever truly immune to it…

It is an emotional response triggered by a deep seated fear of loss and insecurity, and logic has nothing to do with it….After all is said and done, I guess it is all just part of being human…..

Just leave it like it is right now

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